The Latina Book Club is proud to be part of Ellen Castro’s Condor Book Tour. We like that Ellen has come up with 52 Ways for people to build trust, stay positive and flourish. Read all about this “Chief Energizing Officer” and her new book. And, for a full listing of the tour stops, see end of interview below. ---mcf
Q: You seem to be a very spiritual person. Please tell us a little about yourself and where your faith and positivity come from. Why is trust so important to you that it is the basis of your book?
A: I am a spiritual person. If not for my belief in God, I probably would be depressed, an alcoholic or dead. My mom was bi-polar, totally unstable and mentally ill. She committed suicide when I was 17. With a sixth grade education and heavy thick Mexican barrio accent, my dad broke through the poverty cycle for his family. None of his many successes were ever enough because he could not comprehend he was already enough. Dad was a genius in creating beauty, his style impeccable and world class. He was also totally self-absorbed, depressed and a raging, mean-spirited alcoholic machismo male. His mother committed suicide when he was 17.
I’ve used positivity to survive and now thrive! What you say about your life impacts the direction of your life. Being positive and believing that everything works out for good has given me the courage to become the person I am.
Trust is gigantic for me. And thus, I write what I most had to learn – God has a sense of humor. My life changed dramatically when I realized that life was for me regardless of appearances. My childhood was not punishment but preparation to do what I do today which is to give hope and encourage others to live from their greatness.
Next to God, the most important person you need to trust is yourself. Learning to trust myself is a continual journey. What I know for sure though, the more I trust myself the more others will trust me because I come from a place of inner confidence knowing I’ve done the right thing. The 52 ways were my way of learning to become trustworthy to myself and to others. My sincerest desire – with fingers and toes crossed – is to make others’ path easier, lighter and brighter. I have enough gray hairs for us all!
Q: What is new and different about the third expanded edition of your book, SPIRITED LEADERSHIP: 52 WAYS TO BUILD TRUST? Why not write another one?
A: I was compelled to write the third edition based considering today’s intense and interesting times were competence is not enough to succeed in business or life. It’s all about the relationships with people and your people smarts.
The third edition is better and expanded because I am better. I have 15 more years of coaching experience as well as global experiences to share. Several of the 52 ways have been adapted based on the observations and wisdom gained from my experiences. For example, “Excel at Stakeholder Management” is critical today with the increase in matrix organizations and partnerships. I’ve included additional activities, exercises and success applications to make people smarts practical and doable. Plus “Coaching Moments” have been expanded to give the reader leadership muscle and emotional stamina for these crazy fun times.